AWARENESS STRATEGIES TO REDUCE DATE RAPE
SUMMARY: Protect yourself against date rape by using these
awareness and defensive strategies.
Tell People Where You Will Be
Inform a friend, roommate, family member before going on
date with details on who you will be meeting, where, and when you plan on
returning. If you cannot reach them directly, leave a voice message, e-mail, or
Set and Communicate Your Limits Clearly
Sexual limits should be set clearly early in the
relationship. Be direct and upfront. If things are progressing too far, you
must clearly say "no." Do not talk around it, such as saying
"not right now" (maybe later then), or "I'm not sure about
this" (all he has to do is convince her), or laughingly say "stop"
(he thinks you are just kidding).
Directly say "don't do that," "I am
serious," "do not go further." These statements are clear and
direct, and do not leave room for interpretation or negotiation.
Meet in a Public Place
The first few dates with someone new should take place in public.
Date rapes occur in isolated areas, where calls for help cannot be heard by
anyone else. Even close-by areas that conveniently offer privacy for two people
should be avoided, such as an upstairs bedroom at a house party or a parked
Arrange for Your Own Transportation
Do not rely on your date for transportation to and from the
date. Meet him at the arranged location. Carry enough cash to take a cab home.
Trust You Instincts
Pay attention to you gut instincts. If your intuition tells
you that "something is not right," it probably is. Get out of the
situation immediately. Better to be rude and embarrassed than sexually
Beware the Overly Friendly Date
A common characteristic of date rape offenders are that they
move too quickly towards intimacy. Victims cite that their dates were overly
friendly, came on too strong, and did not recognize subtle cues from the victim
to slow down.
Such situations underscore the importance of setting and
communicating your limits clearly and directly, as mentioned above. And end the
date quickly if he is not respecting your personal boundaries.
End a Date Quickly
Do whatever it takes to get out of the situation. The
following are a couple suggestions to gracefully end the date quickly. But do
not be tied to these excuses or set ups.
Make a phone call, or pretend to, and tell your date that
you something urgent (home accident, work emergency) has come up and that you
have to end the date.
Privately call a friend to "bump" into you where
you are, and act surprised.
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